I don't have an 8th grader, but I do think that no matter what the situation, it's good to check in the kid every day and ask what is working (went well, the "high" from the day) and what isn't working (was hard, challenging, difficult or their "low".) Then you can help strategize if there is something to be done, or at least sympathize if there is nothing to be done; and then celebrate what is going great, thereby building up their confidence and optimism. Natalie Kunin has great videos about school, and so does Lee Hausner. Good luck!!!

My kis are young as well, but I've worked extensively with this age group professionally. The thing is, middle school is ROUGH no matter what. Kids who have been matriculating with their same class for years end up with emotional turmoil.... the most popular girl in class can suddenly be the outcast, and vice versa. If there's any way to hold off with this transition until 9th grade, it's better to come in on "neutral" territory- freshman year everyone is kind of stumbling around, shifting peer groups, etc. But if the choice has already been made, I think the best way to help her is to encourage her to do extra-curricular activities that "nicer" kids are attracted to. Drama club, choir, debate team, etc. Wishing you all the best!

I agree with Michelle. Extracurricular activities, whatever they may be, really help children gain self-confidence as they are making friends with people interested in the same things they are.

The best way to help your daughter is to support her. One great way is to encourage her to join school activties that she enjoys. There she can meet people with similar interests. Then she can create a community, which should help her adjust to the transition.