Handling a disrespectful or sassy child

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Backtalk, sas mouth, being fresh, don´t you just hate it? Every parent hates it. Nobody wants to raise a child who sassy or disrespectful. Children are going to be disrespectful and talk back and use sas mouth at different stages of their lives for different reasons. Part of what they are doing is figuring out what works and what does not work. But they need to do it in order to learn that it won´t work. The cure for backtalk is actually pretty simple. It is: Your child talks back to you. Don´t acknowledge. Don´t receive. Don´t respond. Give your child what I call the stink eye. Pause and walk away. Now, you think I am going to say I am not going to talk to them about it. Of course, you are going to talk to them about it because you are going to come back 20 minutes later, a half, that night at tuck time. Hey buddy, what was going on with that? You spoke to me like I was dirt. That is not an okay way to talk to me. I do not talk to you that way. But the reality is backtalk sometimes happens because something else is going on and it´s your job as a parent to figure out what is really happening here. Is this typical, developmental talking back, figuring out the rules of the road or is something going on that needs to be explored? And it is your job as a parent to keep your eyes open, dig a little and see if there is something else going on. Finally, if you do not treat your child with respect, your child is not going to treat you with respect.

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Betsy Brown Braun, MA

Parent Educator & Author

Betsy Brown Braun, best-selling author of both Just Tell Me What to Say: Sensible Tips and Scripts for Perplexed Parents and You’re Not The Boss Of Me: Brat-proofing Your Four To Twelve Year-Old, is a child development and behavior specialist, parent educator, multiple birth parenting consultant, and founder of Parenting Pathways, Inc.

With over 40 years of experience in public and private early childhood and elementary education, Betsy has directed and founded school programs, taught in both public and private schools, has been a school director, and was the founding director of Wilshire Boulevard Temple’s Early Childhood Center. She holds an MA in Human Development and teaching credentials from Pacific Oaks College.

In 2001 Betsy founded Parenting Pathways, Inc. to provide guidance to parents seeking the skills and confidence needed to negotiate the often-challenging parenting pathway. She leads parenting groups, seminars, and offers private parent consultations throughout the nation.

Her bestseller, Just Tell Me What To Say, in its fourth printing,presents the tried and true tools her clients use daily to handle situations that inevitably accompany raising children ages two to six and beyond. Her second book, and second bestseller, You’re Not The Boss Of Me: Brat-Proofing Your Kids, also in its fourth printing, is the ultimate hands-on guide to cultivating character traits that are tried-and-true "bratbusters." 

Betsy brings her vast knowledge, sensitivity, and special brand of humor to her parent consultations, to her groups, and to her presentations.

Her parenting expertise has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, U.S. News & World Report, Cookie, Family Circle, Good Housekeeping, In Style, Parenting, Parents, Pregnancy and Newborn, Twins, Woman’s Day, and Working Mother, among other publications. She has shared her expertise on the Today Show multiple times. Other television appearances have included The Early Show, Good Morning America Now!, Fox & Friends, Rachel Ray, Dr. Phil,  The Talk, Entertainment Tonight, KCBS, KNBC, and Fox News LA. She contributes to KNX news radio on child development, and has been a guest on countless radio programs nationwide, including NPR. She writes for and has been cited in numerous websites and parenting blogs. Betsy is a frequent speaker at educational conferences, schools, and businesses.

Betsy and her husband Ray Braun are parents of adult triplets.

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Backtalk, sas mouth, being fresh, don´t you just hate it? Every parent hates it. Nobody wants to raise a child who sassy or disrespectful. Children are going to be disrespectful and talk back and use sas mouth at different stages of their lives for different reasons. Part of what they are doing is figuring out what works and what does not work. But they need to do it in order to learn that it won´t work. The cure for backtalk is actually pretty simple. It is: Your child talks back to you. Don´t acknowledge. Don´t receive. Don´t respond. Give your child what I call the stink eye. Pause and walk away. Now, you think I am going to say I am not going to talk to them about it. Of course, you are going to talk to them about it because you are going to come back 20 minutes later, a half, that night at tuck time. Hey buddy, what was going on with that? You spoke to me like I was dirt. That is not an okay way to talk to me. I do not talk to you that way. But the reality is backtalk sometimes happens because something else is going on and it´s your job as a parent to figure out what is really happening here. Is this typical, developmental talking back, figuring out the rules of the road or is something going on that needs to be explored? And it is your job as a parent to keep your eyes open, dig a little and see if there is something else going on. Finally, if you do not treat your child with respect, your child is not going to treat you with respect.