Do you have a regular date night or girls night out?
Posted September 3, 2015 - 10:08am
I think it's super important to take some time with your significant other and time for yourself but it's really hard to find time to fit it in and/or find a baby sitter!
CandyOvercaffed
I think GNOs are a bit easier when you have a partner at home - date nights can get expensive! But I've found that GNOs are harder to coordinate as kids in our neighborhood get older and all have so many activities.
Hallz105
I agree. While weeknights aren't always ideal, that seems to work better for most moms. Lately we've been meeting on Wednesday nights after football practice for appetizers and a drink. Even though we are often tired in the morning, it is still refreshing to get away for a little while and have adult conversation!Date night's are nearly impossible. I feel like we do everything separately these days.
Frugal Minded M...
My answer to that over all is no. There have been times over the 17 years when we have attempted to do these,. It usually works for about 2 to 3 months and then stops. I do make time for myself once a week by going to bible study at church. This has gotten much easier since my older kids are old enough to watch the other kids.
Hallz105
That's great! Bible Study is great "me time". I bet you feel refreshed after! MOPS does this for me...I've been horrible about going to church but my MOPS church group is awesome and I always feel so positive afterwards!
Frugal Minded M...
I used to do MOPS and loved it. In fact I started a group at my church a number of years ago. We had to stop it because we couldn't find child care for the second year. The Bible Study I go to is a women's study so it's a great to fellowship with some that have older kids then me and some that have younger or none at all.
CandyOvercaffed
MOPS and Bible Study = GNO for me. It's all about having time to make that connection with other moms. Those opportunities change as we get older and our kids get older. I did both MOPS and a mom's bible study years ago and they were such a nice way to connect.
justamom
Yes, definitely ladies group at church. I've made really great friends at those. Sometimes I'm just too tired to go though.
Your Kid's Table
I don't regularly either, but when the opportunity presents itself I try to make it happen. I know it can be really hard being with the kids all the time, but for me I remind myself that they won't be little for long!
CandyOvercaffed
They really are only little for a minute. I try to remind myself of this, too.
Hallz105
Agreed!
beachcitymom
I have to say no...I have been trying to find time this past year to get together with friends without the kids but it is still not very often at all. A goal I am working on this year. I feel bad because I rarely see my friends that don't have kids.
CandyOvercaffed
I've found it to be hard to keep up friendships with people without kids. Our lives just end up being so different. :(
Mommy Ramblings
I wish, we do not have anyone to watch our kids and I do not really have a lot of close local friends. It is normally a lot of socializing of moms at the kid's bday parties, sports practices and games, school events etc. Sad but true.
Hallz105
I am thankful for that socialization too! It's great to have other adults to talk to, any way I can can get it! ;) And I've made some really wonderful friends this way!
beachcitymom
I do really try with two of my best friends that don't have children but it isn't very easy. They also live pretty far away.
sunnykathleen
When my kids were younger I found it more difficult to leave them for date nights and GNOs. I really realize these past few years how important it is to connect with my own friends and laugh and enjoy some fun! It makes me less stressed and more present for my own two kids when I return home. I just met for happy hour with 3 dear friends today and we already set up a date to do it again in October and have made a promise to meet for a meal, a walk or a movie once a month. Good goal to have!
Hallz105
Yes! It really is good to reconnect with friends. When my kids were babies/toddlers I didn't like to leave them at all. Now that they are older I find it a lot easier to take a break when I get the chance! Glad you are enjoying that time now!
Frugal Minded M...
Totally agree with this. I love my kids and spending time with them, but momma does need a bit of time to her self. It makes for a much happier household. At least that's how it is in my case.
Momofboys
No not regular date nights. Usually, the only time I get a break/date night is when I am covering a media event that is for adults only. Sitters are expensive for during the nighttime and my youngest is really attached to me, which makes it super hard to do anything that doesn’t involve him.
beachcitymom
I can soooo relate! I am looking forward to an event in October for adults only..lol.