Do you ever feel invisible?
Posted October 5, 2015 - 12:14pm
I just returned from an outing and I felt so invisible. I KNEW most of the people at the event, but I still felt invisible. Maybe I'm just thin skinned?
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Frugal Minded M...
So sorry you felt that way. I've been there and it stinks.
jonbonjovious
I think it's probably normal? It does stink though.
sunnykathleen
Just curious - was this a kid centered activity or an adult event? I'm sorry to hear this.
jonbonjovious
It was an adult centered event.
beachcitymom
Sorry to hear this...and yes, I have been at a outing and felt invisible when my son was younger...and it's not a fun feeling. :( It was when I first became a new mom and was trying to find new local moms to hang with...
jonbonjovious
I appreciate you're letting me know I"m not alone in this first-person struggle.
justamom
Not usually. Too much of an extrovert when there's people around. I like to make them laugh.
jonbonjovious
I'm an extrovert, which made the invisible feeling hard to swallow. I love people and have a great time...I didn't let the feeling invisible slow me down or prevent me from having a great time, but it's still a tough one.
beachcitymom
I wish I were more of an extrovert! My son and husband both are.
CandyOvercaffed
All the time. I am thin skinned. Also I am an introvert and social outings drain my energy. I've become very selective of my outings because of that.
jonbonjovious
Awe. Thank you. I'm usually extrovert, but as we were talking and having someone say something that they should have known, especially since we hung out last time, it was tough. :)
Hallz105
Yes, I usually try to find SOMEONE I can sit next to or talk to but I usually feel very awkward. I'm sorry the people you knew didn't make you feel more comfortable :(
jonbonjovious
Thank you. A great time was had and hopefully next time we all meet they'll remember me better.
sunnykathleen
I am a working mom and I send my kids to private school. When I attend events for them there I feel lonely. There is a network of stay at home moms who can volunteer and they know each other from social events. I am not really a part of that crowd. I do feel invisible at that time.
Frugal Minded M...
I actually feel that way with quite a few moms. Not because I'm a working mom, but because I don't really fit in with the young moms because I have older kids and then vice versa.
jonbonjovious
I think this would be a very hard situation. I think it is great that you attend the events. I hope they welcome you.
Mommy Ramblings
Sometimes it can feel that way and then again I am like another mom said I in two different groups I have a lot of teachers and friends that I know through my older kids and then others that know me strictly through my younger kids so that is a little weird.
jonbonjovious
The two groups is weird. I have older children and younger children. I can totally relate.
beachcitymom
oh...I can soo relate! I live on a Military base...although not for too much longer. But, everyone seems to have little kids. (ages newborn-7)and I have a 12 year old. It is really tough to relate to the neighbors and my son doesn't want to have much to do with younger kids.