My daughter has had the same best friend through 7th and 8th grade. Their the kind of best friends everyone hopes for. They're together all the time, spend most weekends together, always on the phone, etc. They even had their birthday party together. We even joined the same pool last summer! Henc, my husband and I became friends with her parents. Recently, they've started to drift apart some. My daughter became moody and started moping around a lot. When I asked her what was going on with her and her bff she said she was starting to feel ignored. She keeps a small circle which only includes her bff and one other boy. Over the past few months a few other kids have joined their small squad. I figured my daughter may be a little jealous. I knew this was something she would need to work through on her own. But, after a few weeks the sadness didn't get better. I talked to her bffs mom and asked her if her daughter had noticed a change. She said my daughter has been pretty quiet but isn't talking about anything concerning. Fast forward a few weeks...
My daughter asks her bff if she wants to have a sleepover this weekend. Bff says no because she's doing a 5k that morning and she'll be too tired. The next morning she asked 2 other girls from their group if they wanted to go dress shopping at the mall. Both declined. That night my daughter see's a post on Instagram of all 3 of them at a sleepover together:(
A few minutes after she sees the post the boy from their squad texts her and asks her why her mom texted her bffs mom and said she was bullying her!
My daughter started screaming at me like I actually said that. I contacted her bffs parents immediately. Come to find out it it was the bffs FATHER who called her a bully for not including my daughter in the sleepover. However, her bff has now told everyone that I told her mom she's bullying my daughter.
The next day her parents made her apologize to my daughter. However, she's lying to all of their friends.
Now my daughter has not only lost her best friend, but, her close friends as well.
My question is:
Her mother is my friend. Should I talk to her about it? Or will I only make it worse?