If you’re thinking as a narcissist as a profile, many people will ask, how will I know if I am dealing with a narcissist, because all human beings can have times in their lives where they’ll be a little bit self consumed ,where we maybe a little more controlling than we like to be, where we can sometimes get too involved in wanting to share or show off something wonderful that’s happened or something we have done that we’re very proud of. You have to think of this in terms of extreme and excessiveness. Some of the common traits of narcissism that would make for a profile of narcissism would be, you have someone who is really so self absorbed, it’s all about them; someone who is very controlling, they do this bait and switch maneuver where they can say, where would you like to go for dinner? And then you’ll say, oh I feel like Asian food tonight, and they’ll say, why would you want that, no we’re going to do this; so they switch quickly, they can also be very charming and also be very complimentary, they can also woo you in many ways and sometimes it’s even real, but it’s unfortunately a small characteristic in their personality. They can be interruptive, over controlling, they are stubborn, they are compulsive many times, thing has to be perfectionistic, things has to be a certain way for them. Their world is all about management of control, performance and being perfect, showing off well for the audience. They can get into very addictive behaviors, a variety of addictive behaviors in support of their needs to disappear when they don’t have the audience in front of them. Life becomes like a game and so many times they get involved in gambling and other types of high stakes situations because it’s a thrill for them, it’s their way of shutting down the valves of their own vulnerability.