Knowing when to seek couples therapy

Marriage & Family Therapist Julia Kantor, shares expert marriage advice for couples on how to know if you should seek out couple's counseling
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Knowing when to seek couples therapy

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The way you would know if you might need to seek out some couple's counseling is if you find yourself consistently getting stuck in certain destructive patterns of communication, like lots of blame and criticism or defensiveness and just shutting down. If you find you're having a hard time resolving conservations. Having a hard time disengaging, calming down and then coming down. If you find that you're just distancing yourselves and then resentment continues to build or you're saying things that are really hurtful to each other and not then able to make repair it would be a good idea to see a couple's therapist who can help you first of all understand what's going on for each of you. There may be things that are going on from your own childhood's for each of you. And then help you communicate with each other in better ways.

Marriage & Family Therapist Julia Kantor, shares expert marriage advice for couples on how to know if you should seek out couple's counseling

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Julia Kantor, MFT

Marriage & Family Therapist

Julia Kantor, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 15 years of experience. With a private practice in Beverly Hills and Sherman Oaks, Julia provides psychotherapy to individuals and couples dealing with a broad range of challenges. Julia also leads infant and toddler groups at the Pump Station and Sinai Temple and specializes in helping moms and couples to stay connected and improve communication post-children. She regularly speaks on "Childproofing Your Marriage" and offers phone coaching on this subject as well. 

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The way you would know if you might need to seek out some couple's counseling is if you find yourself consistently getting stuck in certain destructive patterns of communication, like lots of blame and criticism or defensiveness and just shutting down. If you find you're having a hard time resolving conservations. Having a hard time disengaging, calming down and then coming down. If you find that you're just distancing yourselves and then resentment continues to build or you're saying things that are really hurtful to each other and not then able to make repair it would be a good idea to see a couple's therapist who can help you first of all understand what's going on for each of you. There may be things that are going on from your own childhood's for each of you. And then help you communicate with each other in better ways.