Helping a friend through crisis

Kim Hamer, Widow & Founder of "Exactly What They Need", shares advice on three of the best ways to help your friend through a crisis
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Helping a friend through crisis

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Here are three of the best ways to help your friend through crisis. First of all, don´t say if you need anything let me know because it´s really not helpful. You are then leaving it up to them to figure out what you mean by anything. The second tip is be as specific as you possibly can. The more specific you are about the kind of help you can offer, the more likely they are to call you when they need you. The last thing is be persistent and don´t rush in right away. When a crisis occurs, people usually rush right in to help and really the person needs just as much help six or seven months afterwards than they do before. And be persistent. A person in crisis is confused and needs some time to figure out exactly what they need and how they need it. So continue to call them and offer what it is you have to offer.

Kim Hamer, Widow & Founder of "Exactly What They Need", shares advice on three of the best ways to help your friend through a crisis

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100 Acts of Love: A Girlfriend's Guide to Loving A Friend Through Cancer or Loss

Kim Hamer is the author of 100 Acts of Love: A Girlfriend's Guide to Loving Your Friend through Cancer or Loss, a modern, essential how-to guide offering tips on what to say (and NOT to say), and specific ways to support and love a friend, co-worker or family member who is coping with cancer, loss or any crisis.

Kim Hamer became a widow after her 44-year old husband lost his life to cancer. Their children were 12, 9 and 7 at the time. Before and after her husband’s death, friends and supporters came up with unique, creative and simple ways to help her family. She called them “acts of love” because it’s what they felt like.

Her book is a fun, straightforward compilation of many of those acts. The mission of “100 Acts of Love” is to help everyone understand and embrace their importance in the lives of their friend in crisis and to provide the tools and courage needed to support them in a truly meaningful and helpful way.

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Here are three of the best ways to help your friend through crisis. First of all, don´t say if you need anything let me know because it´s really not helpful. You are then leaving it up to them to figure out what you mean by anything. The second tip is be as specific as you possibly can. The more specific you are about the kind of help you can offer, the more likely they are to call you when they need you. The last thing is be persistent and don´t rush in right away. When a crisis occurs, people usually rush right in to help and really the person needs just as much help six or seven months afterwards than they do before. And be persistent. A person in crisis is confused and needs some time to figure out exactly what they need and how they need it. So continue to call them and offer what it is you have to offer.