Is being a stay at home dad more difficult or less difficult than I expected? There are two answers to that question. Infrastructurally, it´s not difficult for me at all. I am a very organized, efficient, thorough person. I have no problem with calendars, shopping lists, computers, etc. etc. I think where it was more difficult for me than I expected and I would venture to say that it´s more difficult for most dads than they expected is internally is dealing with the identity shift of going from a professional career if they had one to this new identity that´s more traditionally associated with with women and just dealing with that internally and dealing with it externally from former coworkers, school administration, even the people from the credit card company when you have to be on the phone with them. So the struggle for me is more internal than external and more identity driven than infrastructure driven.