If you’re having feelings of jealousy or inadequacy about your nanny, just know that those feelings are valid. Perhaps you’re having a feeling of guilt, because you have to go to work or take care of something in your family and you have to leave your baby with a caregiver or a nanny. And perhaps that doesn’t feel so good. But just know that if your baby feels happy and content with your caregiver that is a direct correlation to the fact that he has a safe and secure attachment with you. He could not be safely in the hands of another if he didn’t know that you are his primary caregiver. So you need to know that you are the number one person in his life. You go, but you come back. And he needs to know that. Every time you leave, you let him know, “I’m going to work now. I’ll come back in the afternoon.” And when you come back, you’re fully present to him. It’s not about quantity time, it’s about quality time. It’s about the times when you are together, you have interactions that are full of presence – that means you don’t get distracted with the phone, you don’t get distracted with an errand, your bills, your mail – nothing. You are fully present to your baby and in that time he will know how important he is to you.