One of the questions that emerge when you start talking about boys who have been immeshed or over involved with theirr mothers is does that cause the boy to become gay or sometimes those boys are referred to as momma boys. So there's a couple issues that I think are important here one of which is, is that it's not the boys fault first of all that he's under the spell and engulfment of his mother. He's not causing it. It's not his fault that he doesn't have a strong sense of himself. So I'm going to make that point very clear. The second is, is that being too close to your mother does not cause somebody to be gay or hetereosexual for that matter, right? So you can look at men as adults who have had very parallel if not exact immeshed relationships with their mothers where the man plays the role of a surrogant husband. One is hetereosexual. He's turned on by women and the other is gay and he's turned on by men. And they had a very similar parenting relationship with the mother in which she used him for her own needs. Now, so there are some similarities there around feeling guilty and responsible for her and there are some differences. Sometimes gay men will because they don't want to accept that they're gay will want to blame their mother or find search for fault and that just hasn't proven to be true. Similarly though, some very hetereosexual men who feel hetereosexual who are erotically charged by women, have a very difficult time bonding with a woman because they're so bonded with their mother might fear that they're gay and they're not, and that's an important distinction for both of those men to know.