When a teenager approaches the initial stages of adolescense, many parents experience shock and confusion at a teen's pulling away. This is a very normal and absolutely healthy part of adolescence. Though it is very important that a teenager feels able to share any concerns and dilemas along the way. The idea of having a preliminary conversation with your teenager occurs usually around the beginning of the adolescent maturation process, usually about 13 to 14 years old. This means sitting down with your child in a very neutral setting like the livingroom and just allowing your child to know that during any upcoming strive or challenges, that you are there and open for them as a beacon of light through any dark tunnel or time that they may face.