Rites of passage are important because they allow us to honor the death of a previous stage. I work with a lot of men and in my work I find that many of these men who have lost their paths as fathers, in their careers, in their marriages suffer because they have not allowed a death to occur of a previous stage of life. A rite of passage honors that. Get off the couch and have an adventure with your son. Take him river rafting. Got into the wilderness. Build a walking stick or a spear, a totem pole so that they have a visceral experience and something to remember that sits in the house that reminds them that they actually accomplished something and went out and had an adventure and they were met in the stage of their life where the little boy is to die and a young man is to be reborn. So that when he becomes a husband and when he becomes a father, when he goes off to college, he knows how to let a previous stage of his life die.