Speaking to teens versus speaking to younger children

Director of the UCLA Parenting and Children's Friendship Program, Cynthia G. Whitham, LCSW's discusses how to speak to teens versus speaking to younger children. She suggests changing your style of speaking with teenagers, giving them independence but also some direction.
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Parents really do not realize when there kids have turn teenagers if they were talking to them as they did when they were a kids well it comes across quite the same as disrespect so you might try out phrase such as "what is your plan to get it done"? When you are done with your game, you know might you feed the cat or taking into account their activity which they take seriously. Taking into account the use of their time. By allowing a little flexibility, allowing them to chose the time, you may find out you get more compliance. Now, there is no guarantee but it sure works better than barking commands at a teenager who thinks he or she is an adult.

Director of the UCLA Parenting and Children's Friendship Program, Cynthia G. Whitham, LCSW's discusses how to speak to teens versus speaking to younger children. She suggests changing your style of speaking with teenagers, giving them independence but also some direction.

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Cynthia G. Whitham, LCSW

Director, UCLA Parenting & Children’s Friendship Program

Cynthia G. Whitham, LCSW, Director of the UCLA Parenting and Children’s Friendship Program, has been training parents for over 30 years. She is the author of two books, Win the Whining War & Other Skirmishes: A family peace plan, and The Answer is NO: Saying it & sticking to it, which have been translated into nine languages. In addition to her UCLA group classes, Ms. Whitham has a private practice on the east and west sides of Los Angeles. In 2000, she spent a month training clinicians at the National Institute of Mental Health of Japan. A lively speaker, Ms. Whitham does presentations and trainings for schools and organizations. Ms. Whitham raised two happy, healthy, and (relatively) well-behaved children (she thinks that may be the best credential of all). Daughter Miranda McLeod is a fiction author and is in a PhD program at Rutgers University. With sadness, Cynthia tells us that her son Kyle died in 2007, within months of graduating from San Francisco State University.

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Parents really do not realize when there kids have turn teenagers if they were talking to them as they did when they were a kids well it comes across quite the same as disrespect so you might try out phrase such as "what is your plan to get it done"? When you are done with your game, you know might you feed the cat or taking into account their activity which they take seriously. Taking into account the use of their time. By allowing a little flexibility, allowing them to chose the time, you may find out you get more compliance. Now, there is no guarantee but it sure works better than barking commands at a teenager who thinks he or she is an adult.