What to consider when choosing a donor

Family Therapist Kim Bergman, PhD, explains the important factors to consider when choosing an egg or sperm donor in order to make the best decision for yourself
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What to consider when choosing a donor

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When choosing an egg or a sperm donor, you are going to have to figure out what's important to you. It's kind of like, the sky is the limit and it's going to be lots of different information, sometimes too much information. You are going to be choosing based on their education, their hobbies, their ethnicity. For some people, none of that will be important. For some people, some specific detail is important. What's important for you is to sit down with your partner and figure out what your bottom line is for you. Pick out three criteria and those are the criteria you will use when you begin your search for a donor. Medically, background, ethnicity; all of those kinds of specific details. They are all up to you.

Family Therapist Kim Bergman, PhD, explains the important factors to consider when choosing an egg or sperm donor in order to make the best decision for yourself

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Kim Bergman, PhD

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Kim Bergman, PhD, a licensed psychologist of 22 years, has specialized in the area of gay and lesbian parenting, parenting by choice and third party assisted reproduction for the last two decades. Dr. Bergman has created a comprehensive psychological screening, support and monitoring process for Intended Parents, Surrogates and Donors. She is the co-owner of Fertility Counseling Services and Growing Generations and is a member of the American Society of Reproductive Medicine, the American Fertility Association, the American Psychological Association, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the Lesbian and Gay Psychotherapy Association, and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. She is on the national board of the Family Equality Council. Dr. Bergman writes, teaches and speaks extensively on parenting by choice. Along with co-authors, she published "Gay Men Who Become Fathers via Surrogacy: The Transition to Parenthood" (Journal of GLBT Family Studies, April 2010). Dr. Bergman created her own family using third party assisted reproduction and she lives with her wife of 28 years and their two teenage daughters. 

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Transcription: 
When choosing an egg or a sperm donor, you are going to have to figure out what's important to you. It's kind of like, the sky is the limit and it's going to be lots of different information, sometimes too much information. You are going to be choosing based on their education, their hobbies, their ethnicity. For some people, none of that will be important. For some people, some specific detail is important. What's important for you is to sit down with your partner and figure out what your bottom line is for you. Pick out three criteria and those are the criteria you will use when you begin your search for a donor. Medically, background, ethnicity; all of those kinds of specific details. They are all up to you.