Choosing a known sperm donor

Naomi Hanna, Certified Nurse Midwife, shares advice lesbian couples who are choosing a known sperm donor, including who an ideal donor is and legal issues
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Choosing a known sperm donor

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When you are choosing a known donor, it´s important that you find somebody who feels very comfortable with their role and if this role is not going to be a parenting role but they are going to be part of the child´s life and the child is going to know who they are, it´s important that this person is very comfortable with that they are not going to have a legal right to this child. They are not going to be able to come and claim them as theirs but as the relationship unfolds, that they are willing to be a part of the child´s life. I think that if your donor that your considering has a lot of questions about what if the kid comes and wants to live with me and what if this happens and this goes wrong and what, that´s probably not the right donor. The right donor is somebody who is so openminded and so expansive in their view that they are willing to say that life can´t be controlled. We don´t know what´s going to happen, but I am here for the process and I want to give you this gift.

Naomi Hanna, Certified Nurse Midwife, shares advice lesbian couples who are choosing a known sperm donor, including who an ideal donor is and legal issues

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Certified Nurse Midwife

Naomi Hannah is a midwife who has worked in several birth settings: she has been a Doula, a Certified Professional Midwife, a labor and delivery nurse, and is now a Certified Nurse Midwife. Naomi has approached the many facets of birthing from various angles; a birth center, a home birth practice, and currently a hospital-based practice. She lives in Taos, New Mexico, with her partner of 13 years and their two children, Eden who is 10 and Ezra, seven, both born with the help of known donors. Her personal experience and professional skills have made it possible to help other women conceive at home with alternative insemination.  She is also a singer-songwriter who has taught preschool music classes. She enjoys sharing music with her children and watching their musical language unfold. 

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When you are choosing a known donor, it´s important that you find somebody who feels very comfortable with their role and if this role is not going to be a parenting role but they are going to be part of the child´s life and the child is going to know who they are, it´s important that this person is very comfortable with that they are not going to have a legal right to this child. They are not going to be able to come and claim them as theirs but as the relationship unfolds, that they are willing to be a part of the child´s life. I think that if your donor that your considering has a lot of questions about what if the kid comes and wants to live with me and what if this happens and this goes wrong and what, that´s probably not the right donor. The right donor is somebody who is so openminded and so expansive in their view that they are willing to say that life can´t be controlled. We don´t know what´s going to happen, but I am here for the process and I want to give you this gift.