I'ts really hard watching our children grow up and seeing them get a little dings that come with social learning. It's really important to remember that your kids practice relationships especially in second, third and fourth grade. Sometimes their feelings can get so hurt by their friends. But I want you to step back. Are you projecting your own injuries in this whole situation, your own early life traumas? Are you getting re-injured yourself? If so I need you to step back and let your kid explore social learning. Sometimes your kid is not going to be included in every game and they're going to be sad and they're going to cry. But this is not the time to circle the wagons, become a hover parent, call every other parent, call the principal, say she's being bullied when in fact it's just a learning moment. Now, obviously, if your child is clearly having depression or anxiety, their eating habits have changed, their sleeping habits have changed and there's something going on and that's a long term thing, then I would suggest you really need to be proactive and get involved. But for the rest, stay out of it. Let them learn how to be friends. Let them learn how to be a good friend. And sometimes they learn that by being excluded.