Parents should sit down with their elementary age school child and tell them directly that mom and dad have not been getting along. If the children have had a chance to observe a lot of arguing or fighting, the parents may want to call on that and say you can probably remember or tell that mommy and daddy have had a hard time getting along. But we want you to know that our not getting along has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with grown up kind of problems. And so we want the child to know they are loved by both parents. We want the child to know that both mom and dad will remain in their life. We want them to know that they will always be their mom and dad. And we want parents to stay as involved in the child´s life as possible. So if there is a soccer game, both parents go to the soccer game. If there is an open house, we would like both parents to go to the open house. So we would like the child to feel like even though mom and dad don´t live together anymore, both my parents still love and are involved and are concerned about me.