How to get your baby to sleep?

First question to ask always is "How old is your baby?"

We want to make sure that we are connecting with what your baby is capable of in that developmental stage. We don't want to push a baby and force them and sleep train them.  At the same time we don't want to continue helping a child sleep beyond the point where they don't need that help anymore. New parents are given a lot of support during the early months for how to soothe their baby. But they're not given a lot of instruction for how to gradually back off from that soothing. So one of the things we outline in great detail is how to do that. We call it the "curious stance" and what it looks like is being attuned to what your baby may be able to do tonight that she wasn't able to do the night before. So what this might look like is, say your baby wakes in the middle of the night at a time when they're not used to feeding. What the "curious stance" would look like is that you go into the room and instead and swooping in and picking them up and bouncing them or feeding them right away, you'd start with the very least intrusive thing ... Read more