So if your partner keeps cheating, when do you make the decision it is time to move on? Many people will ask me once a cheater, always a cheater? When do I give up and say this relationship is not fixable, we can´t repair this? And that´s a really important question because I think everyone after an affair feels like am I fool to stay, am I being taken advantage of, and that´s an important distinction to make. Are you feeling like guilty because everyone tells you you should leave or are you feeling like there is something not right in this relationship, I really can´t trust that this person is going to be here for me? My intuition tells me that everything coming out of this person´s mouth is a lie, so there is a difference between someone who compulsively cheats and really can´t stop and someone who has an affair and really wants to resolve and feels remorse and wants to move forward. And you have to learn to trust your intuition. Is this affair a can-opener, a way to end the relationship? If you feel like infidelity is being used as a way to abuse you, as a way to take advantage of your feelings, or as a way to compartmentalize your relationship from your sexuality. In other words, your partner is getting sex somewhere else and is just using you to be the one to take care of the kids, it might be time to start thinking about your own needs and what you need to do to move forward to actually end the relationship.