As a stay at home dad, how do I keep the romance in my relationship? First of all, you have to understand as most parents do that romance is one of the first casualities of having kids in general. But that being said, if your wife has been working all day at a very stressful job and you know she is not going to be in the most lovey dovey mood when she gets home because of something that might have happened at work, you have to temper your expectations number one. Number two, try and find new and different ways of conjuring up passion and one of those ways can certainly be around things that have happened with your kids. If your son or daughter has done something really adorable or cute during the day, you can bring that up anecdotaly and that will get a little chuckle going. And that can ease its way into a passionate or affectionate situation. And then you are golden but don´t expect it all the time.