Well we all have dreams for our children, absolutely. And some children meet our dreams and our expectations and others don't. Of course we can't let our disappointment kind of leak into the atmosphere and hurt a child. I think the most important thing to know is children need to be happy. And I don't mean happy because you gave them the thing they wanted or they got to use your iPad. I mean happiness that comes from the inside knowing, I'm a good person. And that's what self esteem is all about. You get self esteem from positive messages from your parents, but also from feeling capable. I can do it. I'm clever at this. From the time a child walks to riding a bike to reading, every skill that they get makes them feel better about themselves. Your child's source of self esteem may not be school. Your child may not be a scholar. Your child may have a high IQ but have learning disabilities that result in lousy grades. So help your child discover and nurture what he or she does do best. You can usually find it by seeing, what do they love to do? If you nurture that, develop that, help your child have an identity about, I can do these things, then you're going to keep his or her self-esteem intact. And my guess is by following that passion they'll do just fine.