If you want to change the shape of your parenting, of the feeling of your home, the shape and tone of your home with children, -- it's kind of like changing the shape of your body, we all know that we don't need a diet and shape of your lifestyle. What I like to work with clients on is shifting the way that we look at what a productive day is, for example. We are all very steeped in the industrial world view, which is very much based around doing. How much did I do today? Then I'm going to assess how well did I do it. What I am asking, what I'm inviting parents to adopt more of a relational world view, which is less about doing and more being. Not so much about how much did I do today, but how connected, how present was I in the things that I did? World views don't shift all at once. They shift a little at a time. I love what Richard Rohr says, "We don't think our way into new ways of living, we live our way into new ways of thinking."