Equally Shared Parenting is a lifestyle dedicated to sharing equally in all four aspects of being a parent, namely your career, taking care of the kids, sharing the task in the home and time for yourself as well. It's very difficult to identify an Equally Shared Parenting relationship from outside. It's really an internally motivated lifestyle. There are no T-shirts to say, "I'm an Equally Sharing partner." There are no check-lists to determine if you're a qualifying member. Let's take an example, a common example, of a man who's an involved dad married to a woman who may work reduced hours outside the home. Even in that example there's a lot of presumptions built in in our society. First of all, mom probably owns the running of the home. She still makes all the rules about who takes care of the kids and what needs to be done on a day-to-day basis. She probably has the junior career which is not quite as important. It's just nice to have. It also presumes that dad is the one that's overly busy. He is the one out working all day long, coming home, helping out around the home so he deserves a break to get outside and play a little bit. This example is not Equally Shared Parenting any more than an apple is an orange; they are two different things.Equally Shared Parenting is model. It's something that people strive towards but don't actually achieve. It's something that everybody is working towards who commits to this lifestyle as a goal for them. In reality, nobody really cares what your lifestyle is called other than you. Society won't care. They won't look at you and judge whether you're doing anything a particular way. it's just the way you want to live your life. If your working towards an equal partnership, if you're on the same team as your wife, if you get to walk in each other shoes on a daily basis, we call that an Equally Shared Parenting couple. It's someone who's committed in the sharing in the time and involvement in all of the aspects of their lives.