Unfortunately I think my husband and I discipline in very different ways. My husband tends to coddle and spoil my girls, which gets me nuts. I think you do not do a service to your children if you spoil them. And unfortunately, it does confuse my children a little bit. I find that it´s really important not in front of them to have a conversation with your spouse and really explain your feelings and why you really feel strongly about this and vice versa so that at least you can be on the same page half the time.