In a perfect world, we would have it all together before we have children but often it isn't until we have children. And they start pushing our buttons that we realize that we have some work to do on ourselves. Children are like living with your guru, they highlight for you any area, where you need to do some work. It is the hardest thing we do, working through our old issues. It means that we have to sit with those painful feelings, not take action, not go get a pin of ice cream, not go on on one of our screams, not yell on someone. But sit with those feelings of maybe hurt or fear, maybe from years ago. And it's such hard work that most of us avoided, but when we notice that we are being triggered in our interactions with our child over and over again. That's a red flag that we have some work to do. And the only thing to do is to go back and do that work and work through this feelingss. So, it's hard work, but what better motivation than our love for our child?