So an important question is, is when does the line get crossed between a normal love relationship between mother and son, and father and daughter, and vice versa, and one that's inappropriate where the childs meeting the parent's needs? Let me say first, there's a normal love affair. Any parent knows that. They fall in love with their child. The child falls in love with them. It's a wonderful experience and that is the early budding if you will, the beginning of what the child will then take away into the world as their first love experience and you want that to be a good experience, you know? You want to love your child. You want to let your child love you. There's nothing wrong with it. So I want to make sure I reassure parents that I'm not talking about loving your child is a bad thing, in fact it's a good thing. So the normal love affair and I'll call it that on purpose between parent, child, it's a wonderful thing and so when the kids say I want to marry you mommy, that is not something they've learned on TV. It's biologically hardwired. I want to have babies with you. It's hardwired. My son said to my wife at the age of five I want to marry you and have babies. I about fell over. In my second book, the title of which is When He's Married to Mom, my son was six, he says, oh, What's the title of your new book daddy? I says oh, well, it's called When He's Married to Mom. He goes, oh, that's a very good title, he said. And so he was having a very sweet innocent love affair, right? And there's nothing wrong with that, but if the parent then exploits or uses that in the service of her own or his needs of being lonely, frustrated with his or her experiences with adults, and they begin to chronically, I mean, frequently and often over time, bring the child into their world and meet your needs, I want you to love me only, that's when the line gets crossed because that's not fair to the child because the child naturally wants to love the parent. The parent is always responsible for holding the boundary.