Well one of the shifts that needs to happen to bring more peace and ease and delight to a home happens within the parents themselves. Now, I learned this in a very raw way. When my son was a baby, I found myself in the bathroom whipping a hand towel against the counter to drain off enough rage that I could just sit on the floor with him and be with him and his blocks. And I wanted to find out what was going on. And I found out that behind my shiny J.Crew exterior and my organic baby food making that I was struggling. I, as a baby, had not gotten what I needed and I was trying to give that to my son. And what I learned was when we hold a baby in our arms, the baby we were once is right there too with whatever unmet needs or losses we had. Bu the good news, the exciting news, out of the latest neuroscience is no matter what our childhood was, it doesn't have to negatively affect our children if we can just become fluent with it, friendly with it, make friends with our own story. So really the take home here is work on yourself and your child will thrive.