Teaching our children how to acknowledge their friend's crisis or tragedy can be very difficult, because often, we don't know what to say. So there are three things you can do. The first thing is to teach your kid that it's okay to acknowledge the other child's loss. "I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. I think about you every night. I cried for you." Those are perfectly good things to teach your child to say. The second thing you can teach your child is that they can't fix it and take it away, but they can make their friend happy, by just being themselves. No extra special treatment is needed. The last thing we can teach our children to do is that crying is not a call to actions. Many times when people cry, we want to give them a hug, whip out the tissues. We want to fix it. Often times, crying just needs to let go and just cry. This is just a great opportunity, when someone is crying, is just to sit and let them cry. They will be better in a few minutes.