There are a lot of ways you can support a newly widowed person. Everyone wants to bring meals for instance – don't bring a meal. What you can do is put a cooler outside their door, so the meals can be dropped off, so the person doesn't have to be there or doesn't have so see anybody. The other really important thing is you could also let everyone know to bring the meals in non-returnable containers – this is not the time to deliver a meal in your great aunt Floe’s favorite dish, because the person in crisis is probably not going to remember that you even gave it to her. Another great thing to do is to allow them to express themselves and to feel the grief. It's a very difficult thing to sit and watch somebody in pain, but to be their witness, to let them be in pain, to let them know that at the end they're going to get out of the pain is one of the most powerful things you can do, for not just a widowed person but for anyone who's going through a crisis.