Who's the biological mom? I think for 2 women who are going to have a baby together, or for that matter 2 men, that question comes up all the time. So it's one that you really need to be prepared to answer. So it's something that partners need to sit down and discuss with each other. Over and over again, I think before you get pregnant or during the pregnancy, it's a little more obvious, but after the fact, I think that's a really hard question because you have 2 women who are both going to be mothers or are mothers to a child, and when you ask a question like that, it really makes biology important. It really says who's the one who's actually the mother. That's how it often feels. And it can be really, really hurtful to a non-biological parent, and it can be really hurtful to a biological parent too to sort of constantly feel that her partner is being dismissed. And for that reason, because there's so much potential to hurt, you have to think about how you're going to be a unit on that question. How you're going to come together and answer it in a way that really puts your family and its safety, and its happiness and its needs first. Which means that if somebody's asking a question to you that is intrusive or insulting, you don't have to answer it, or you could try to do a bit of education, you could say, "Well that's a really hard question for us because we're both really involved mothers. Why do you ask?" Or you might sense that people are just kind of curious and they want to get a better sense of your story and what your family is like, and just say, "I carried and that's how we work." But whatever it is that you answer, remember that you have a choice to answer it, and you really do have to think about this one in advance.