Loyalty issues are very common. What we ask parents to do is looking inside and see if you are doing anything to create the child feeling like they are being unloyal to you by having a relationship with the other parent, by telling you that they enjoyed the time with the other parent, by even saying to you on a weekend that they would rather spend that time with the other parent. So we want to enhance communication, allow the communication to take place. Don't take it personally even though sometimes it feels like that. Do a careful self assessment with regard to, "Am I giving my child any messages that would make them feel that they are not being loyal to me if they are spending time with the other parent?" If a child doesn't feel free to go and have a relationship with the other parent they often feel burdened, guilty and replacing the position of being caretaker of the feelings for the parent that has that loyalty conflict. That is not fair to the child. It makes them grow up feeling like they are responsible for other peoples feelings. It can increase their level of sadness. It is taking pleasure away from the child. Good parents do not want to do that to their children.