If your partner is difficult and refuses to talk to you, it’s probably going to be difficult to save your marriage. If you need to figure out a way to deal with the new family unit that you’re going to be having, I recommend very strongly getting in front of some kind of health professional. If your spouse knows that you’re not going there for the purpose of rehashing and discussing all the terrible things that he did to you during your relationship, but instead going to talk about how we’re going to raise our kids and how we’re going to work out these things and it will save us money, because we won’t have to have two dueling attorneys, he or she may be more willing to enter that room with you. Having a third, unbiased party there, I find, is very helpful. If there’s been a breakdown in the relationship, often there is some hurt feelings and resentment. If you can have a third party there to be kind of a voice of reason, rather than hearing, “You’re being unreasonable,” or, “This position doesn’t really work and it won’t work for a court from you,” hearing it from a third, unbiased party who also may call you out on some stuff sometimes, I think is extremely helpful. So I always recommend that people figure out somebody to talk to that can be unbiased and really give their opinion and help through some of these difficult situations.