In America, race is complicated. We like to think that we are a multi-cultural and diverse society. None of us want to be labeled, or think of ourselves, as a racists; most of us. We are not explicitly doing racist things or having racist thoughts. Let's think about how we actually live. Who do you worship with? Who do you eat dinner with? Most of us do that with people who share our race. If we are very honest about it. Those are two very intimate experiences. In our most intimate experiences, most of us are living monoracially. If our families and our children were built across more racial lines aren't; which means that we have some different things to navigate. It doesn't work very well, according to research and according to the vast majority of adoptees of color to live in racially isolating environments. What happens is, those kids grow up and want to leave. I'll tell you, as a parent, the reason I adopted was because I wanted the profound closeness that comes from being a parent and having that relationship. I don't want to live somewhere where my kids don't feel like they can be their authentic self. I don't really think you do either. I know you don't want to hear this, but it is important that you live in an area where cross-racial relationships are possible. Where your child is not an only. We know that, so, yes, it matters. For those of you that live there, I urge you to think about how that is really going to affect your child.