One of the things I talk about a lot is giving your kids ownership and control over the sports experience and people ask me how do I do that. I think really the best way to do that is through goal setting. But here's the thing, when I was a young coach, I used to do goal setting. I would set the goals for my team and then I would yell and scream at my team and push them towards my goals. And then one day, a kid said to me, "You know, coach, we don't think we're going to win the league. You're the only one who thinks we can win the league." There was this light-bulb moment for me where I said, "You know, how can I possibly coach this kids if I actually don't know what they want out of this experience?" Then I started doing goal setting with my teams and I would ask them to list three individual goals and three goals they had for the team. But then here's the key thing, before I would collect those goals, I would ask them to go home and I would ask their parents to list three individual goals for their son or daughter and three individual goals for their kid's team independently of their kids and then sit down around the kitchen table and compare goals. Because so often parents goal showed their kids in sports and the kids goals or at complete opposite ends to the spectrum. If I'd say there is one thing that made more kids quit was that their goals and their parent's sporting goals were totally incompatible. One wanted them to play college sport in Stanford and the other one didn't even want to play in high school. I really think that as parents if we can help our kids set goals and we can look at what their goals are and accept their goals for sports, then what we are able to do is we are able to push them towards their goals and not our own goals. One of my favourite sports psychologist, his name is Dr. Jim Taylor. He says, "Kids are creatures of inertia." They tend to stay at rest until we put them in motion and then they tend to stay in motion." It's our job as parents to push our kids, but if we push them towards their goals, they are far more likely to pursue them than if all we're doing is pushing and prodding and screaming and yelling at them to try to achieve our goals for them.