Teen girls and sex

Jerry Weichman, PhD Adolescent Psychologist, shares advice for parents on how to talk to your teenage daughter about sex and prepare her for guys pressuring her into giving in.
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I see a lot of girls in my practice. I also see a lot of girls in my practice, who end up giving guys what they want sexually, even though they don't want to, through what I call, the breakdown process; which is, whether it's online, requesting a picture being sent by phone or in person in an intimate setting. A lot of guys will continually break them down in the process of saying, come on, come on. The girls will initially say, no, no. After that, the fourth, fifth, seventh time, the girl finally relents, and gives the guy what he wants. Then you've got the spiral effect of how that makes her feel used and how she feels about herself. A lot of these girls, it is their first sexual experience to begin with. I think that parents need to talk to their teenagers about, not only what guys do and how this breakdown process works, but if you tell a guy "no," and he tries a second time? He doesn't care about you. It's all about him and that should be a red flag. You've got to get out of there if you hear or see that.

Jerry Weichman, PhD Adolescent Psychologist, shares advice for parents on how to talk to your teenage daughter about sex and prepare her for guys pressuring her into giving in.

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Jerry Weichman, PhD

Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Jerry Weichman is a licensed psychologist and adolescent specialist as well as an author, speaker and parenting expert. His clinical practice at Hoag Hospital's Neurosciences Institute in Newport Beach, California provides a window on contemporary teen and pre-teen behavior.

“Dr. Jerry” as his adolescent patients call him, is a young PhD who really relates to teens, speaks their lingo and has felt their pain. Author of the teen survival guide, How to Deal, and noted media expert on teen issues, Dr. Jerry is focused on helping teens cope with parents, teachers, friends and academic pressure, communicating with them in a way they understand to help successfully navigate the dramas and pressures of adolescence.

Dr. Jerry's popular speeches, lectures and seminars have presented assemblies of students, teachers, parents and administrators with practical approaches on how today’s teens can overcome the trials and tribulations of growing up, from coping with bullying to meeting parental academic expectations to walking away from drugs and other self-destructive behaviors. Jerry also sits on the board of directors for the Bullying Prevention Initiative of California and just recently sat on an expert panel for a screening of the documentary Bully.

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I see a lot of girls in my practice. I also see a lot of girls in my practice, who end up giving guys what they want sexually, even though they don't want to, through what I call, the breakdown process; which is, whether it's online, requesting a picture being sent by phone or in person in an intimate setting. A lot of guys will continually break them down in the process of saying, come on, come on. The girls will initially say, no, no. After that, the fourth, fifth, seventh time, the girl finally relents, and gives the guy what he wants. Then you've got the spiral effect of how that makes her feel used and how she feels about herself. A lot of these girls, it is their first sexual experience to begin with. I think that parents need to talk to their teenagers about, not only what guys do and how this breakdown process works, but if you tell a guy "no," and he tries a second time? He doesn't care about you. It's all about him and that should be a red flag. You've got to get out of there if you hear or see that.