When it comes to mean girls and bullies, one of the most interesting things as a parent or a teacher is to sort of just hang back for a little bit and watch the dynamic of the girls on their own so that they don't feel that they're being watched. And then you can do an interactive exercise, which I think is really effective and has been for the girls in my workshops. There's one particular exercise that has been really effective, and I like to call it "lunch room tables," because that's one of the places, especially in an elementary or middle school situation, where the girls are all there in a gaggle together and they're really unsupervised because they're there in such large numbers. So what you want to do is create an exercise that mirrors something that they're going to experience and may not know what to do. And so usually I'll play clueless teacher and we bring up what we call the "new girl" and we have her sit at an already established group. One of the things that I like to do is to make the overt mean girl who you already know to be a mean girl the target or victim, and have the victim play the mean girl and let her sort of get it out for a while. I will then come back to one of the other girls who is one of the bystanders who's sort of in the middle of it, and those are the ones with the power to really change the dynamic. And I whisper in her ear that she is going to be the one to change the dynamic at the table so that the new girl feels comfortable. And it's really something to see these girls try and work it out because they have an objective and the objective is to problem solve. Because you know the opposite of conflict is peace, and peace of mind.