Bully proofing your child can be accomplished in three ways. The first way is to have conversations with your children on a regular basis about bullying. Just ask them, "Do they ever see bullying happening to other kids, are kids being mean to others and hurtful, and leave other kids out, and does that ever happen to you? That's just the first stage. The second thing is to anticipate that bullying will happen potentially with your children and role play with them before it even occurs. So you can say " If you're in a situation where a kid is physically aggressive with you, how would you handle that?" , to see if they can actually give you a suggestion. If they're going to react and scream, that's probably not the best suggestion. But tell them if that happens, let that kid know, "whoa" they've crossed the line, like just say, "Stop!". That's a way to show a kid what that line is. If they're excluded they should let a kid know "Hey, did I do something to upset you?" If not, then there's another issue there and you want your kid to walk away without showing a lot of drama like we talked about before. The third thing is I'm really big into teaching confidence skills. Behavioral confidence is a way kids can show that bullying is not going to be so impactful so they don't look like a target. You have to teach kids to stand up straight when they deal with bullying, to look kids in the eye, to show less reaction than they might want to show or feel, and to show that the bullying that's coming at them doesn't really affect them. When kids show behavioral confidence, there's not a lot of fun for the bully to continue.