I think that the way that you could help your older child be closer to your baby is: one is dependent on age, of course. If your child is 12 months older, 1 year older, you're going to have to really give time to that child. Allow that child to still feel that they're your baby too, that they're not the older child, because they're not going to understand a new baby coming in. But if the child is a few years older, maybe 5, 6 years old, really allowing that child to come in and help you through all the things that the baby needs, making that child Mommy's "little helper." You don't want that child to feel the worry that you feel, where maybe that child is changing a diaper, or holding the child, and making them feel like what they're doing is unsafe. But allowing them to feel like "wow" they're really helping out. They're there to help out Mom. They can change the diaper. It might not be perfect, but it's really perfect for them. And when they feel that proud sense of being an older sister and older brother, they're just going to love that child that much more, because they're not going to feel like they're the problem. So it's really bringing them into the child's life. Then also. we don't forget, we need to spend time with that child without the baby. Let that child know that this is your time spending with them, and not with the child.