As parents, we hope to protect our children from the hardships of life. But unfortunately, our children will eventually experience the loss of a family member or friend or may feel the effects of a debilitating sickness. How do we prepare them for these experiences? How do we help them build the strength they need to overcome the pain and heartbreak they will feel? Kids In The House has interviewed many psychologists and parents to share with you these four tips to help build resilience in your child.

1. Show your child unconditional love.

Therapist and author Robert Brooks explains the most important thing a parent can to build resilience in their child is to show them unconditional love. “In every study that is done, you ask resilient people what has been most helpful to them and they talk about at least one person, one adult who really believed in them and stood by them and offered them unconditional love,” explains Brooks. Children who feel acceptance and support from those around them have better confidence in facing the obstacles they encounter. Brooks says that it’s more than a hopeful and optimistic attitude, it’s knowing that no matter what they have people to support them.

2. Participate in service activities.

Dr. Brooks also encourages parents to provide more service and charity activities with their children as a way to build their resilience. “There’s some wonderful research to show that one of the things that predicts whether or not children will be more hopeful and optimistic as they grow and develop is if, starting at an early age, you provide opportunities where they could help others,” says Brooks. It’s helps children realize their self-worth and gives them the confidence they need to withstand trials throughout their lives.

3. Understand your child’s temperament.

Another important part in building strength in your child is to gain a better understanding of your child’s personality and temperament. Parent Educator Rona Renner says temperament is an important indicator for knowing how your child will behave in certain circumstances. If your child is shy and goes through a tragic situation, they are most likely going to become more reclusive. “They are cautious,” explains Renner. “They need your acceptance and they need your understanding.” Wait for them to come to you because pushing them will only frustrate and confuse them more.

4. Teach them how to relax.

Arianna Huffington, President of the Huffington Post Media Group, encourages parents to learn how to thrive as a family unit by taking time to relax and be emotionally healthy. This means getting enough sleep and meditating even if it’s just a few minutes a day. “It’s a very essential part of how we can keep ourselves healthy and able to deal with obstacles and challenges,” says Huffington. As your children learn this ability, they will be better prepared to accept and work through difficulties.

Do you still have questions about how to raise a more resilient child? Join us for our #KITHangout: “RESILIENCE: Raising A Stronger Generation.” We will be joined by experts Dr. Robert Brooks and Rona Renner, who will be answering your questions during a live Q&A discussion. Click here to RSVP and start asking your questions!