Is there such thing as a “good divorce”? The decision to get a divorce is never easy especially when there are kids involved. Fortunately, Kids In The House experts share important advice to make the transition easier for everyone in the family. While divorce is never “good,” it can certainly be made better by following counsel from these experts.

Having been the child of divorce and a family law attorney, Laura Wasser shared personal and professional insight on how to work with your partner during the divorce process. She encourages spouses to show a level of respect for each other and be considerate throughout the process. She explains, “You will save hurt feelings and you can hopefully move on to the next step in this relationship with this person who, if you have children, is always going to be very important to you.”

Divorce can be especially hard on children and psychologist Rebecca Eberlin shares that often their feelings are forgotten during this process. “It is pretty typical that parents get wrapped up in how hard this is for them,” Eberlin says. “We want to remember that not only is it hard for you, as a parent… but your kids are also having a hard time.” She encourages parents to get social support from those around them so they are not only able to address their own hurt feelings, but that they are also able to help their children cope during this difficult time.

School psychologist Maggie Kline also explains the emotional effects divorce can have on children. Often kids fantasize that their parents will get back together and in this case, Kline encourages parents to clearly tell the children that “it is over.” Other kids may begin to become extremely worried that it had something to do with them and they may be concerned on what their future as a family will be. “They need to know that they're safe and that they're loved and that it had nothing to do with them,” says Kline.

Divorce can become even more complicated when there is a second marriage involved. Psychologist Joshua Coleman explains that second marriages can be even more stressful on a child than their parent’s divorce. He encourages parents to be patient with their kids when expecting them to accept a new “parent” in their lives. “Don’t pressure your child to be more involved with that new parent than they want,” says Coleman. “And don't pressure your new spouse to be more of a parent.” He shares that the new spouse should be more like a fun and loving aunt or uncle in your children’s lives.

Do you still have questions on how to have a “good divorce”? Join us for our Google Hangout, “THE BREAK-UP: Emotional Support for Children During & Post-Divorce,” tomorrow, September 16th, at 1:30PM PST. The Hangout will be hosted by Leana Greene who will be joined by Laura Wasser, Rebecca Eberlin and Joshua Coleman. They will be answering your questions live! Click here to RSVP for the Hangout!