So how do you keep your sex life active if you're a new mom? You're breast feeding, the kids are active, you're exhausted. I can tell you that the most important thing is to recognize that you're exhausted. You know, they use sleep deprivation to torture people. So if you haven't slept in a long time, it's normal to feel the way you're feeling. Secondly if you're breast feeding, and you have young children hanging on you, that's called over physical stimulation. So you're overly physically stimulated at this point in your life. Your partner might feel under sexually stimulated. So you're really at a time in your life where you're going to be at a crossroads. Your partner wants more physical stimulation or sexual affection and you probably want less. So in order to increase the sexual connection between you, you need space. And the only way you can take space is if your partner helps you with that. So if your partner wants more sex, they've got to help you by giving you the time and space that you need to rejuvenate. You cannot pour from an empty pitcher. And you're not going to look at sex as a way to fill up your pitcher. You're going to look at rest, space, and time. Once you have rest, space, and time, it's amazing how much more willing you are going to be to want to have sex with your partner. And the next step is to be physically stimulated, to be aroused by having your skin touched in a way that feels sensual, and in a way that feels nurturing. Not by having someone pull at you, push you, tweak you like a radio. You want to have a nurturing touch that increases the oxytocin in your body and in your brain. That's the hormone that makes you feel like you want to bond. Yes, it's released when you breast feed. But it's also released during sex. And you want to have that chemical that's released between you and your partner so that you can bond with them and not just with your babies. So sex is an important part of your life right now even though you might be too tired to even think about it. So give yourself some space and time, tell your partner that you need them to help you with that, get some physical touch and some turn on, so that you can release that oxytocin, and give yourself the time to carve out that intimacy with your partner. It's really important right now.