So if somebody who has multiple affairs a sex addict and that's an important question because you have to make that distinction to determine the treatment because they're separate, can be related but separate treatment tracks. So when we talk about somebody who is addicted to sex say who has multiple affairs we're usually looking at somebody who feels compelled to break the vows of the implicit or explicit relationship, and they're in conflict about the urge to do so, but they can't stop themselves. And they're compelled to seduce, flirt, get into their pattern, act it out, and then they regret it, they try to stop. They can't stop. They do their pattern all over again. When we see that kind of pattern, that pattern of regret and shame, and the desire to stop, but the inability to stop, you almost always are looking at some addictive issue. In comparison, sometimes a serial cheater if you will, who has no regret, no shame, doesn't try to stop, is completely an opportunist, and would as soon be sexual with someone he meets as he would take their money, so we're usually talking about somebody who is an opportunist and has a character disorder. In other words, the character is not congruent. The value system they profess to have doesn't match their behavior and they tend to lack empathy, shame, appropriate shame, and regret over behavior that harms people. In fact, they often are surpised that they hurt anybody. When you see that kind of, you know, repeat pattern of affairs, that is a much more difficult person to treat because of the lack of empathy, and the lack of remorse, there isn't alot of leverage to use in a clinicians office or therapists office to work with them, not impossible but more difficult as opposed to the addict. The addict brings in shame and regret, and that assists us to work with them better, and there's better outcomes with that.