Yeah, so how do you work with a situation where somebody in the coupleship or the marriage is excessively bonded or sometimes we use the word enmeshed with a parent? It's good to remember that it's critical for children to separate, sometimes the word is individulate from their parents and really one of the primary roles of the parent is really since children are not our property, it's really to shepard the child into the world. And in order to do that, they've got to unhook. And children differ in their temperments and some kids are more naturally clingy if you will, and so you have to work with them different. Some kids are more naturally willing to run off and without a care in the world, and you might work with them differently, but if they're somebody that's inappropriately bonded with his mother or father, he has to work at separating completely. There was a study done oh, a number of years ago of 50 couples who reported over a seven to ten year period that they were happy and content in their marriage. And so the researcher wanted to know well, what was it about your experience that helped you get there and she had them answer survey data, you know, collected questions that she had them answer and then she rank ordered what they reported as the most important thing in their marriage that contributed to happiness. And you saw things on the list that we would expect, you know, common values, common parenting strategies, a good sexual romantic life, time spent apart from the kids, things that we probably would all put on our list, but the number one thing that they reported that they did that contributed to the success of their marriage was they both separated from their family of origin and became their own man or their own woman. That was what they said was the key to the success of their marriage.