Can an affair end up being the best thing that ever happened to you? Actually a lot of couples that I see in my therapy practice will say, actually, maybe this affair was the best thing that could have happened. Now, it takes a while to get to that place. So if you're not saying that right now, that makes total sense. But that's because you're at a different place in your recovery. In the beginning phase of a recovery from an affair, you're in a crisis. And it in no way feels like this is a really good thing that this happened. But you do get through that. And after the crisis, there's a whole other phase where you start to have some understanding and some insight of like, how did we get here? What happened to us? And if you get through that and really work together on the inside the why of the affair, there is another phase after that where you create a new relationship, where you start to share a new vision going forward. And a lot of times, couples in that phase will say, you know what? If this affair never happened to us, we would never have this. We would never understand each other and what we really needed from each other. We would never have had this opportunity to talk about what our goals are and what our vision is of the future going forward. A lot of couples say, we were on a really bad path there, and this would not have lead to the vision of our lives that we have now. The life that we really want to lead, a more intimate, more connected, maybe more sexually satisfying life. So for some couples an affair is a wake up call. It's kind of like a smack in the face. Like if we don't do something now to make this work, it's never going to work. And some couples are, if not grateful, at least aware.