The top 5 rules for raising great kids. One, regulate you own emotion. Two, stay connected with your child because that is the only way you'll ever have any influence with your child. Three, emotion coach, so you help your child with difficult emotions because when kids can regulate their emotions they can regulate their behavior. Four, set limits. Have high expectations but do have empathy, see your child's point of view so they feel understood at the same time. And finally, dare not to discipline. Guide your child but don't feel the need to punish. Punishment is always a road to a relationship with your child and actually doesn't get better behavior.