In a traditional relationship, mom is presumed to be in charge at home and with the kids, In an Equally Shared Parenting relationship, dad needs to take a leadership role in various times over the various tasks in all areas of his life. The first task on a man's to-do list, prepare for this new leadership role, is to be available. In a lot of ways it sounds like a crazy idea. For generations moms have been preparing by carving out time out of their career to take care of the home and the kids. We need to learn from their success along these lines. When you're avail able, all kinds of things become possible that weren't possible previously. Maybe you can plan, the schedule and take the kids to their dentist visits. Maybe you might be available to stay home when the kids get sick and they can't go to school. All these things contribute to your equal partnership with your wife by being available and on par with her on a day-to-day basis. Once you are spending time at home, you're going to want to enjoy that time. So it's really important for men to spend time getting competent at what they do. It's not going to be any fun if you're just white-knuckling, stay at home all the day long just for the sake of a quarrel. You're going to find a way to be good at it. No one likes to be in the position that they don't like or they're not successful or capable in the task before them. So it's important to dig in deep and get good at what you do. If you've never done laundry before and you've become an adult and never had to take care of your own laundry, it's time to learn. It's time to Google it, ask for some advice or do it alone. Just go make some mistakes and learn from that. It's really important to get good at what you do do you can start enjoying your time at home well. When you get really good at something you really want to be a little creative, take the next step in preparing for this leadership role which is do it your own way. I mean, Daddy Day should be different from Mommy Days. Equal Shared Parenting is not trying to create to identical pass. We have two different people, we have difficult ways of going about it and doing things your own way it's really going to make your time at home with the kids a lot more enjoyable. So taking on these task, preparing to be a full leader at home. It's really important if you want to have a sustainable, long-term relationship with your wife, and to be able to share all of these tasks with her. When it comes to leaders, any books you read in the business school, any thing along those lines. No leader is going to say "This is not my job." It's important for men to think of that the same way when it comes to Equally Shared Parenting, All of the jobs are available to men and women. They shouldn't be assigned based on gender. And to the extend that we can step up and do our job capably and competently, the more we're going to enjoy our time at home.