Letting Dad do things his way

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I think the way that we get our partners more involved in parenting is to understand that the way that they parent and the way that they love and the way that they raise their children does have a little bit of difference in a way that we love and raise our children as mothers. We may hold the baby at certain way. We may feed them at certain way. They may bond with us in a certain way. But, fathers have a really distinct way of holding their children and feeding them and loving on them that may not necessarily jive with the way that we do. So, for instance, you know, I would never helicopter my child from one side of the room onto the bed. That's not something that I, as a mother, would do. I'm thinking of ambulances. I'm thinking of hospital bills. I'm thinking of a hurt child and broken bones. My husband just thinks it's fun. So, what I do is, when he decides to play helicopter daddy, I remove myself from the situation. And, you know what? When I come back, everybody is still alive, bones are not broken, there are not any hospital bills, and he's bonded with his daughters. And, that's the, you know, once you realize that you need to step back and let them do their thing, it's all the better for it.

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Author & Founder of MyBrownBaby.com

New York Times best-selling author Denene Millner is a hotly sought after award-winning journalist whose insightful and captivating pieces have secured her foothold in the entertainment, parenting and book publishing industries. Millner spent the last decade working as a columnist, contributing editor and blogger for Parenting, a national magazine for which she provided witty, engaging, mom-to-mom advice on ethics and etiquette in everything from childrearing and marriage to work and friendship. Currently, she also is the founder and editor of MyBrownBaby.com, a critically acclaimed, award-winning blog that examines parenting and motherhood through the multi-cultural experience. Millner frequently contributes as an entertainment writer for Essence, the most well-read and respected magazine for African American women, and has written for a plethora of national publications and prestigious websites, including Parenting, Health, Ebony, Jet, Heart & Soul, Real Health, Money, iVillage, Parenting.com, TodayMoms, and The Root, among others. Her extensive television experience includes regular appearances on the The Today Show, CBS Early Show, The Nate Berkus Show, HLN, CNN, MSNBC, VH1, and the Rachel Ray show. Millner also is the author of 21 books. The former political reporter and entertainment journalist lives in the Atlanta area with her husband and their two daughters.

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I think the way that we get our partners more involved in parenting is to understand that the way that they parent and the way that they love and the way that they raise their children does have a little bit of difference in a way that we love and raise our children as mothers. We may hold the baby at certain way. We may feed them at certain way. They may bond with us in a certain way. But, fathers have a really distinct way of holding their children and feeding them and loving on them that may not necessarily jive with the way that we do. So, for instance, you know, I would never helicopter my child from one side of the room onto the bed. That's not something that I, as a mother, would do. I'm thinking of ambulances. I'm thinking of hospital bills. I'm thinking of a hurt child and broken bones. My husband just thinks it's fun. So, what I do is, when he decides to play helicopter daddy, I remove myself from the situation. And, you know what? When I come back, everybody is still alive, bones are not broken, there are not any hospital bills, and he's bonded with his daughters. And, that's the, you know, once you realize that you need to step back and let them do their thing, it's all the better for it.