Remembering the kids during a divorce

Rebecca Eberlin PhD Psychologist, shares advice for parents going through a divorce on the importance of remembering how their divorce can have an effect on their children
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Remembering the kids during a divorce

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The most important thing that I want to remind parents as they go through a divorce is to remember their kids. A lot of times, families are really struggling and parents feel really hurt, no matter what the cause of the divorce was. It is pretty typical that parents get wrapped up in how hard this is for them. We want to remember that not only is it hard for you, as a parent, as a mother, as an individual going through this rough time; but your kids are also having a hard time. I always remind parents, how are your kids doing? How hard is this for them? Making sure that they are the focus and making sure they are managing the situations between mom and dad, no matter how hard they are. You, as a parent, while you are focusing on your child, always keep in mind that you don't have to do this alone. It's okay to ask for help. Get social support. Social support is one of the most important things that pulls people through difficult times; whether it's friends, family, a support group, therapy; whatever you have to do to not feel alone in your situation, do it. Always remember, your children need to be the focus.

Rebecca Eberlin PhD Psychologist, shares advice for parents going through a divorce on the importance of remembering how their divorce can have an effect on their children

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Rebecca Eberlin, PhD

Psychologist

I am a California state licensed psychologist, who specializes in providing evidence-based treatment and assessment to children, adults and families with a variety of emotional, behavioral and developmental challenges.

A proud Wolverine, I graduated from the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor with Bachelor of Arts degrees in Psychology and Political Science. I then returned to California and completed my Doctoral training at Pacific Graduate School of Psychology, an APA accredited pre-doctoral internship at Sharp HealthCare, and a post-doctoral fellowship at the Children’s Health Council.

I relocated to Los Angeles in the summer of 2011 to conduct prevention-focused research at UCLA’s Semel Institute of Neuroscience and Human Behavior at the Global Center for Children and Families. During my time at UCLA, I became the lead psychologist and Director of Services and Operations at the UCLA Family Commons in Santa Monica.

Throughout the course of my career, my research and treatment interests have included working with children, adolescents and adults who struggle with behavioral and emotional challenges, such as depression, anxiety, impulse control disorders, developmental disabilities and other family-based issues. I also conduct parent education seminars that focus on a wide variety of issues including resiliency, stress, relationships, social media and friendship and bullying.

While my primary location is West Los Angeles, I also have offices in Northern California. If you are interested in obtaining coaching or cognitive testing services in the Bay Area, please do not hesitate to contact me.

Please please visit my website to learn more about me, my practice and how therapy can work for you.

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The most important thing that I want to remind parents as they go through a divorce is to remember their kids. A lot of times, families are really struggling and parents feel really hurt, no matter what the cause of the divorce was. It is pretty typical that parents get wrapped up in how hard this is for them. We want to remember that not only is it hard for you, as a parent, as a mother, as an individual going through this rough time; but your kids are also having a hard time. I always remind parents, how are your kids doing? How hard is this for them? Making sure that they are the focus and making sure they are managing the situations between mom and dad, no matter how hard they are. You, as a parent, while you are focusing on your child, always keep in mind that you don't have to do this alone. It's okay to ask for help. Get social support. Social support is one of the most important things that pulls people through difficult times; whether it's friends, family, a support group, therapy; whatever you have to do to not feel alone in your situation, do it. Always remember, your children need to be the focus.