My advice to make your divorce easier on your children is be nice, be considerate. Tap in to whatever it was that had you with that person, in the first place, deciding to have kids; whether it was a moment in a bar, a sunset, or years of IVF that you went through together. The fact that you guys have children means that, at some point, you loved each other. If you can back to that point, think of your beautiful children, and know that in today's society, families looked very different than they did when we were growing up. You have multicultural, multiethnic, and multigender. You've got stepparents. You've got single-parents. You've got grandparents that really does take a village to race children these days. Anybody that we can bring in to help with making our children well-adjusted to the transition that's going to take place in our family, and to also really be dignified and civil to the person who's going to be your ex. You're going to know them for the rest of your life. You're not divorcing your children. You're divorcing them. But they're going to have to be a co-parent, a commiserator, a baby-sitter, a united front with you. You better figure out a way to make a relationship work with them. That will benefit your kids.